I've been married for 5 years

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6 years ago, I met Tabari on Hinge, we clicked right away, scheduled a date, and I didn’t talk to him for a week until the date. It was on a Thursday, I confirmed that we were still on, and we met up at a noodle spot on the West Side of Atlanta.

I rushed home after work, took my dog out for a walk, and went straight to the restaurant. I was starving, a little tired from work (I was working in tech at the time as a PM), but curious about what the date would bring. I had another date lined up with another guy a few hours later…so I had nothing to lose.

We sat down and Tabari confessed that he was actually on a diet and wasn’t eating carbs. I laughed and made fun of him without skipping a beat. He cackled so loud…his classic laugh that I learned quickly is the signature of his presence. I softened right away. I don’t know where my filter went, but I guess I didn’t need it.

We talked about our lives, our day, whatever came up. I ordered half the menu with no apologies and ate like I had never seen food before. He ate several plates full of vegetables. It felt like I knew him already. It felt like it wasn’t a date, but our usual way of being. We decided to go to a second spot, so we went to Little Trouble which was just a couple blocks away.

By this point, I canceled the other date. I just knew I wanted to stay here and be present. There was something there for me to sit with and experience.

I had no idea that we would get married a year later in our home.

I had no idea that we would be survivors of a global pandemic, or that we would start a business together, Ginger and Carrot Productions.

I had no idea that we would sell that house and move to Los Angeles and leave behind all of our family and friends.

I had no idea that we would wake up on April 10th 2026, walk to a coffee shop a block away from our apartment, get lattes, and talk about our goals in between kisses.

I had no idea that he would make me breakfast almost every morning, love my dog almost like she was his own, and do all of my laundry.

I had no idea that he would make me laugh ‘til my stomach hurt more times in a day that I could count.

I had no idea that he would commit to therapy for himself to process things that he still doesn’t always share with me.

I had no idea that he would commit to a year of couples therapy with me and grow as much as he did.

I had no idea that he would follow me anywhere in the world so that I could pursue my larger than life multihyphenate dreams as undefined as they were in the beginning.

I just knew that he felt like home.

This is what love looks like for me and I love it here.

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I’m Neysa, I’m a director, writer, and founder. I coach multihyphenate founders to create success from the inside out - the kind of success that only arrives when you commit to being who you are before you were conditioned to go along to get along. My clients come to me to create more revenue and ease in their business, but they walk away with deeper clarity of who they are, how their business can be tailor made for them, and the foundation of how their story amplifies the whole thing.

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